Small Fears and Anger
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Do small fears build up and manifest themselves as anger in you?
How do you eventually feel if you are afraid of something every day? How do a bunch of little fears over the course of time affect you? Have you ever experienced anger that you felt came out of nowhere? How do you identify something as a small fear?
Fears can build up over time. We may believe that it is just one little thing here and one little thing there. At the beginning, each small fear adds to the others. When you already have a bunch of small fears that add up, they start to multiply. At that point, the effect that small fears have on you becomes exponential and you do not know what small fear will be the one to push you over the edge.
There is an old story about a stone mason and his son. Each day, the stone mason goes to this large boulder in his yard and hits it one hundred times with a hammer. Each day, the stone remains intact. Day after day, the stone mason goes to this boulder and hits it one hundred times. Then, on the one hundredth day, the boulder splits in two. The stone mason’s son says to his dad, “Dad. What did you do differently this time to make the boulder break?” The father replied, “Son, it was not the first hit or the last hit that split the boulder. It was all the hits in between.”
Fear turning into anger is the same thing. It is not the first fear or the last fear that leads to you being angry, it is all those small fears in between. I invite you, today, if you are afraid of something or if you are afraid of someone, start to work through your fears. Continue reading, watching videos, researching, and doing what is necessary to work through your fears. Reach out to a professional for help. There are good coaches, mentors, and therapists ready to help and ready to see you succeed.
How this applies to authentic empathy…
When it comes to authentic empathy and dealing with small fears, if you are the one dealing with the small fears, I invite you to give the people in your life additional authentic empathy. The situations that cause the small fears that affect us are often no big deal to the people around us. When we experience authentic empathy for them, we can re-frame their comments that the things we are afraid of are no big deal from being dismissive to be caring. I invite you to see that the people around you are saying that the situation that caused the fear is no big deal because they feel that saying that will help take the stress off you. In addition to giving others more authentic empathy, we need to give ourselves more authentic empathy. When we beat ourselves up for things, we multiply the effect of the fear. Giving ourselves the authentic empathy to feel the fear and then work though it will prevent much of the stress that comes along with the fear. Finally, if someone you know is struggling with small fears, I invite you to give them increased authentic empathy. I invite you to work with them to find the best way for you to show them you have authentic empathy for them. Doing this will positively impact that person’s life in more ways than you will know.
How this applies to WACASHWI…
When it comes to WACASHWI and dealing with small fears, I invite you to carve out time in the process to handle the small fears you cannot see right now. Initially, I invite you to do this by setting aside fifteen minutes each day to focus on any small fears you felt during the day. As you progress through the process, you will find that you will naturally start to handle the small fears as they arise. When that happens, I invite you to take the fifteen minutes you were using to look at the small fears and use that time determine what you will do to put each small fear aside permanently.
Your daily invitations…
- I invite you to think about some of the small fears you have experienced recently.
- I invite you to consider the impact those small fears have had on your relationships and how you have been feeling.
- I invite you to write down your thoughts, feelings, and actions in your journal.
- I invite you to talk at least one person who has been negatively affected by your reaction to the small fears you thought about above if it is safe to do so.
- I invite you, today, if you are afraid of something or if you are afraid of someone, start to work through your fears. Read, watch videos, research, and do what is necessary to work through your fears. Reach out to a professional for help. There are good coaches, mentors, and therapists ready to help and ready to see you succeed.
Final step – how will you implement one thing you learned today in your life?